Last night, I watched Brown Sugar for the 1st time in a very long time. This is one of my favorite movies to watch. Sanaa Lathan plays the female lead and Taye Diggs plays the male lead. If you have never seen the movie, it is based off of their 20 year friendship and how they were able to realize (and tell each other) that they were meant for each other. I loved watching them fall all over each other in almost every scene. She would look at him and smile. He would look at her and look like he was getting a lump in his throat. Without words, you could see that they wanted each other. It was cute and sickening at the same time. I’m such a girl sometimes (lol) and it shows because I love this movie. It might be due to the fact that things like this rarely exist.
There’s a scene in the movie where Sanaa’s character, Sydney was finally unpacking (from moving back to NY from LA for a job as editor of XXL). Her cousin, Francine (played by Queen Latifah) asked her “why didn’t she (Sydney) and Dre (Taye’s character) ever hook up. Sydney said, “Dre asked me back in college about it and she turned him down”. I do not think it was because she wasn’t interested, but because it would alter their close friendship. I think it also scared her too. Why is it so hard for us to admit how we feel about another? Why is it so hard to take a risk?
Every time I watch this movie I think about all the time people waste NOT communicating. It is almost like we are not comfortable within ourselves to be able to take a person’s answer and move forward (if not the desired response). Everyone is not going to have the same feelings. So, if you are secure within yourself and you feel those feelings for someone, then how hard is the risk? We walk on egg shells because we do not want to be rejected, but rejection is a part of life. No is a part of the vocabulary for a reason and you need to learn early that it will apply to you. If you know that the word NO has a lower percentage of being used (in certain cases), then what is the hold up? 60% of all human communication is non-verbal so all you have to do is observe. Time waits for no man and evidently you think you have more time than you do when you do not speak up. I hate to say these things, but you could leave this Earth tomorrow and still have not uttered those words meant to be released. As it has been said, “closed mouths don’t get fed”.
So, Let Go and Let God – It’s time to Love! You know??